Crisis as a Catalyst
My daughter has a good friend whose sister suffered a TBI (traumatic brain injury) from a serious car accident over two years ago. Initially, it was unclear as to whether or not she would survive, but she did, and has been making a slow but miraculous recovery. As you might imagine, her recovery path has not been a simple straight line, but looks more like a crazy zigzag as her mother (her primary caretaker) struggles to not only constantly navigate the unknown waters of her daughter’s physical, mental, emotional and spiritual recovery, but also continuously battles with numerous insurance companies to obtain the necessary assistance to enable her daughter to continue her amazing recovery, and advocates for her daughter in the political arena as well.
You may be wondering what this has to do with being present and infinite possibilities, so here’s the connection. Her mother has posted, almost daily, in an online journal sponsored by the health care system that treated her daughter from the beginning. What has struck me is her mother’s awareness, early on, that being present is THE way to live. Her almost daily journal posts underscore this as she describes the importance of not looking ahead to the possible obstacles that may be thrown in their paths, and not looking backwards to the accident and everything that followed. In addition, she continues to hold fast to the belief that ANYTHING is possible for her daughter, and she remains open to all of those possibilities. The only way to do this is to detach from an outcome and remain present. You can imagine what a challenge this can be for her, especially when you consider what a challenge it is for most of us.
As soon as we begin to project what we think might happen in the next minute, or the next day, or the next month, we cut ourselves off from allowing ourselves to accept all of the other wonderful possibilities that are out there for us. And when we begin to focus on the past, especially concentrating on the “what if’s” and “should have’s”, we stop any “forward” momentum dead in its tracks.
Take a page from this mother’s life. Relinquish your attachment to outcomes. Stay present. Remain open to all of the wonderful possibilities that exist for you.
- The Mirror That is You (kmhubersblog.com)