Help – I’m Stuck!
At some point in our lives, many of us will experience a feeling of being stuck. This looks and feels different for each of us, depending on what is happening in our lives.
How Are You Stuck?
You may be in a relationship that feels as though it is getting stale and going nowhere. You may feel that the passion or spark is gone, and that you and your spouse or partner have virtually become roommates.
Or maybe you feel that you have gone as far as you can in your current job, and you don’t see any options for growth. Where can you go from there? Or you may even feel that your comfortable, stable job is just not what you were meant to do, but you don’t know what it is that you were meant to do.
Perhaps you and/or your spouse or partner have retired, and you don’t know what to do with yourself and your free time.
I have talked to people who are caregivers to children or elderly parents, and they know that they need and want to have a life outside of caregiving, but don’t know what that life would look like.
Or you may just feel that you are not happy, content or fulfilled with your life.
You feel stuck.
Don’t Run Away
The danger lies in looking at this as a “condition” from which to escape, because in that frame of mind, you will be running away from something, instead of moving towards something. When you are in this flight mode, you are less likely to stop, take a breath, and listen to your soul. You are less likely to still your mind. You are less likely to connect with your true self, and get in touch with your unique self. You are more likely to jump into something in which you will feel stuck before you know it.
As soon as you start judging yourself for being stuck, you have catapulted yourself out of the present moment, and into a self-defeating cycle. You are where you are for a good reason, and be present with it.
An Opportunity for Growth
Feeling “stuck” is your true self’s way of telling you that you are not “on purpose”, and that you are ready to move from where you are towards a life of purpose, fulfillment and joy. Feeling “stuck” provides you with an opportunity for discovery and growth. Feeling “stuck” is something to embrace, accept and use as a springboard to move forward (or sideways, or whatever direction you end up moving). Feeling stuck is YOU communicating with YOU – listen closely!
If you feel stuck, hold that feeling close to you, make it your friend, and really ask yourself what you need to feel unstuck. Envision what feeling unstuck would look like, smell like, taste like, feel like, and sound like? Would you be alone, or with a special someone, or surrounded by people? Where would you be – in a cabin in the mountains; in a busy city full of cultural opportunities; in the quiet country?
Take the time to really explore this. Don’t run away from being stuck. Spend time with it, thank it for letting you know there is something different that you want from your life. Run towards your joy, passion and fulfillment.
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